I suggested a low watt incandescant lamp because it's the cheapest resistor I know.

In the case of a 10W (83 mA) fluorescent load, I think you should focus on finding a quiet relay. They are available, and are easier to deal with than ballast resistors.

But if you stay with SSR and ballast resistors, you should choose an SSR that is rated at NO MORE than 12x the load (to contain leakage). I suggest a bleed resistor consumes NO LESS current than 1/4 of the fluorescent load.

In this case, a 1A rated SSR with a bleed resistor of 6.6Kohms 5W rating would meet the basic requirement. An SSR with a current rating greater than 2.0A may have too much leakage.

You still should test extensively.